The man only gets a small allowance every week or month and needs to ask his wife for permission if he wants to spend any more of his own hard-earned money!
Foreign guys often seem to struggle with this system.
Things that they fear a foreign woman would not agree to do (e.g.
stay home, take care of the kids, always pour new alcohol into his empty glass etc.).
It might be a bit more difficult if you’re looking for a serious relationship as there are those women I mentioned earlier who either want you as “exotic accessory” or just want your DNA to create a cute “half-child”.
All in all, it is easy for a Western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan.
Maybe they also think that a foreign woman might expect from their man that he’s telling his feelings straight out several times a day, something a shy Japanese man just won’t do.
Another problem is that many of the Japanese men seem to be afraid of their English ability and thus fail to approach a foreign woman.
Please note that the following is based on my personal experience and that not everybody out there is like that.
I’m sure you have your own and there’s much more behind all this, but that’s it for starters, I guess.
As a result, dating in Japan is usually quite easy for men.
And at the same time there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them. Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!
A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them.