And of course a lot of women will communicate what they want or need to the guys they date just because they feel justified with how well things have been and they are ready for more and they can’t wait.
If they don’t, they feel they are being inauthentic or even worse a pushover giving the men “all the power to dictate everything on their own terms.” Then what follows is usually the men telling them they are not ready, or they don’t want a relationship or they want to take things slow or they are still feeling burned by their previous relationship or ex or a combo of those answers.
I know I wasn’t when I first met my ex, having just been out of a 9-year relationship but I thought I wanted a relationship. Ruby, having just broken up from her boyfriend only a less than a year ago, is exactly in that stage. Bringing the talk only makes you appear presumptuous,dramatic and pushy.
So I was gravitated to him because he was safe and distant because I needed the distance myself to sort my head out and regain and enjoy my independence. He speaks to you clearly of his “intentions” (and all those things you require from a man) with his actions. It’s because he doesn’t want to or he’s not ready for that.
What you have to do is to manage your investment and attraction. Use your single card, that is what rotation is for.That’s what makes you over-invest in any guy, because you keep fantasizing about what it could be instead of seeing it for what it truly is.And this is actually common among women who are avoidant (emotionally unavailable) themselves.This is an interesting behavioral pattern of an anxious-avoidant.She wants things to get deeper -and can’t wait for that to happen- but at the same time she’s scared to get deeper herself without assurance/guarantee that they are a couple (I’m sure you’re familiar with the whole routine here).“So, great date Friday night. In past relationships where there has been a similar level of intimacy, attraction and interest, a momentum builds due to communication and frequency of seeing each other.