Negative reasons for online dating

With social networking sites becoming a rage, online dating has been one major phenomenon that has caught the trend. How far can we really go with someone we meet online? Though, its demerits rise above on the balance beam.There are innumerable sites that offer a platform to young hearts yearning for some love and warmth in their lives. Not everyone gets partners through online dating and be made an eternal love story. You may look around, many must have tried it, but hardly anyone has got a successful online love story.Not everyone is lucky enough to find a date from their own city.Even if you do, ofcourse you first interact online and then meet. For, in these bonds, no real meetings and interactions takes place at the primary level. We bond when we meet someone over a period of time, spend time talking together and being with each other in person. You may be very greatly bonded with someone you have hardly met. It involves not just emotional but also physical, mental and spiritual space.But due to this there is a vast difference in what we feel talking to them on the net and what we feel on actually being with them. Be it a boy or a girl, whoever is trying to find a date online will give his/her best shot.In many cases it happens that the comfort and freedom we feel and share with a person virtually is a complete fiasco in person. Ofcourse everyone has their own share of flaws, and no one likes to reveal them. When you date somebody online, there can be a million things they hide from you and you don’t even have a clue of them.A heartbroken person, who finds no mates in the real world is the most likely one to go looking for a date online, in an stranger, according to not one but a number of recent surveys.

For socially weird or anxious or shy people, trying to meet a stranger in public is a nightmare, and even for someone charming and outgoing, it’s a grueling task that requires a lot of luck.

There may be for a few days an intense feeling of connection and bonding, but this is short lived. The major reason being that we don’t know any background of the partner we found online. And hence, there is always a sense of suspicion, doubt and insecurity with an online partner. Loyalty Loyalty is an inevitable parameter of love.

In the long run, it is almost impossible that both the hearts are equally loyal and serious for each other. For partners, insecurity, jealousy and anxiety are signs that they actually care for each other and have a sense of possession for them. What makes a relationship a relationship is loyalty. We never have the option to go for a background check for a partner we meet online. Even if we have some mutual friends, they can’t really be trusted. To find a relationship on the internet, where two hearts, even though miles apart, are loyal to each other, devoted to each other and ready to live together forever for each other, and only for each other is not only difficult but almost unattainable.

Is online dating making the world better and dating more effective, or is something important being lost or sacrificed as a result?

The way the current trend is heading, what will dating be like in 2030, and will that be a better or worse time to be on the dating market than 1995? I think the term “online dating” is part of the problem and makes people who don’t know much about it think it refers to people forming entire relationships online and only meeting in person much later.

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