(Also From Galland: Finding Love: The Power of a New Story, How To Rate Your Date—Before Getting Hooked, and Getting Smart About Love.) by Suzannah Galland Dating should be fun: The thrill of waking up next to a new lover—feeling their soft breath against your body—is fantastic at any age.But dating at forty-plus is too often cast in a sad light by the media, so for some, the thought of being single and forty (or older) brings to mind what one doesn’t have, or is losing, as opposed to what you do have—or are even gaining.
She’s still not responded to a DM about someone she’s upset. I’ve said what I’ve said and will never apologise to anyone about standing up to online bullying. In contrast to Coral, though, Jennifer herself also identified with the word power. Our drive for perfection can override our sense of self-worth, and obscure our desires, even to ourselves.What Jennifer came to realize was that she liked to have control when dating and in relationships, and so, too, it seemed did the men whom she’d been involved with in the past. Our desires can drive us at every age if we let them.I see a difference in how women in their forties walk into a room, the way they can make heads turn and pulses race. What we project and how we attract others has everything to with what’s buried beneath, whether curiosity or fear. Coral, forty-two, explained that dating had left her feeling abandoned.She felt manipulated to please her (male) partners, and felt overly needy herself.