Having kids can add a whole other dimension to this one and since Craig and I didn’t have any, I can’t speak to that situation directly. To me, this was a part of my life and part of who I was (and still am). For some reason, my boyfriend wasn’t too bothered and months later as things began to get more serious I began to phase some of my late husband’s things out of obvious display, more out of respect for my new boyfriend than anything else.My new boyfriend is now my new husband and I don’t keep pictures of Craig up in our new home except for one in my office, tucked beside my computer monitor where I do my writing.So these women have kindly shared what the stories of what their first lesbian experience (or woman-on-woman, vulva-on-vulva, however they want to define it) was like...1. Also, as an aside, she gave me the best head I've ever received. I consider myself a straight girl, though I will admit women can turn me on. My marriage was suffering because my libido was gone. We haven't matched it since, even with a healthy sex life. I don't know how it happened, but the next thing I know is we're making out rather intensely. Apparently, it's not normal to feel repulsed during sex because this feels amazing." 9. It wasn't all bad, but I enjoy the memories more than I enjoyed the experience, especially because using a strap-on is EXHAUSTING if you haven't been working out on a regular basis.Five years ago I decided to try being involved with a woman because I had many unsuccessful relationships with men and I wondered if I was missing out. A while back my good friend (also f/straight) and I slept together and while I was hesitant at first to go down on her, I was surprised that the smell and taste was barely noticeable. As far as my technique, I just did to her was I find most enjoyable. We were at it for about 10 hours, she squirted twice and I lost count of orgasms, so I guess fucking a girl comes naturally to me, haha. I pushed her up against the wall and started kissing her neck and the moan she let out turned me on so much - it made me want her. Had a suite mate/ friend in college who was a lesbian. Was in an awful relationship with a guy and in a "breaking up" fight he said something like "I don't know why you don't realise you're a lesbian and roommate has the hots for you! Later roommate and I went on a smoke ride and I decided to see what would happen if I tried to be flirtatious. I distinctly remember thinking "Holy shit holy shit. She turned me on a lot, but when it came down to it I was too nervous about the experience to fully enjoy it. Did you take your wedding rings off before you started dating? It took me months and months to remove them permanently and in the end I opted to have them remade into a custom ring I could wear on my right hand so I’d always have that little piece of who I was before to carry with me as who I am now.
Every situation is different and I would emphasize that not all in-laws are the same. I left the pictures up all over the house, I kept his wedding ring in my jewellery box, I carried his love letters in my purse.
I am waiting for the proverbial poop to hit the fan. They can simply spy through the blinds across the street or stalk her house at all hours of the night pretending they were “just stopping by to say hi”.
I sit back down, slide my laptop over, hit refresh. In a world of social media and worldwide gossip, neighbours no longer need to walk three miles to gossip about the love life of the local widow.
I still kept some of Craig’s clothes (now integrated into my own wardrobe) and several boxes of his awards, comic books, and other memorabilia. Somehow they always ended up finding their way back onto my left hand.
These live in my office closet where I can take them out and look at them whenever I feel the need. I loved them so much it was beyond painful to lock them away in a jewellery box where I’d never see them, never get to enjoy them for what they were – a beautiful gift from my loving husband.