This information was pounded in from all directions, from rabbis, from my parents, my grandparents, Hebrew High School, Camp Ramah.I felt the pressure: The future of my people was at stake! The school was arty, musical, nerdy, and had a substantial Jewish population. Even though I no longer felt outside the norm, I still had trouble getting dates … Every Jewish woman I asked out on a date rejected me.Even her unfortunate use of Jewish stereotypes feels like it comes from a place of ignorance, not malice.There’s real anti-Semitism out there, and labeling everything as such only serves to devalue the word. It is also quite possible that Purcell hit on an uncomfortable truth the Jewish community may not be excited to discuss.It’s one thing to want to be with another Jew, but it’s another thing entirely to rationalize using people you have no intention of committing to for “practice.” Purcell was not the right messenger to highlight potential issues within the Jewish community, mainly because she can never truly understand the Jewish experience no matter how many Passover Seders she attends.Yet buried underneath her crude rhetoric was an idea worth exploring further, one that must be considered whenever beginning a new relationship with someone of a different religion, ethnicity, or culture.Take, for example, the overwhelmingly negative reaction to Carey Purcell’s volcanically hot “ Purcell attempted to explain why she believed two failed relationships between her (a non-Jewish woman) and Jewish men ended partially because of religion, and why she was left feeling like “their last act of defiance against cultural or familial expectations before finding someone who warranted their parents’ approval.” The article is no doubt problematic.The headline is pure clickbait, Purcell undercuts her own argument through statistics that show the frequency of interfaith marriages, and she plays far too fast and loose with Jewish stereotypes, with a particularly cringe-worthy bacon joke in the article’s conclusion.
n increasingly large part of Internet culture involves completely dismissing controversial hot takes and writing them off as irrelevant instead of exploring them for any potential nuggets of truth that could be hiding underneath their crusty exteriors.
Jewish girls often were interested in Jewish guys—many of these girls ended up dating and even marrying Jews; they just weren’t interested in dating high-pressure, community-survival minded, intense, and awkward me. While I was at school, I joined an online discussion forum where I began to chat with a non-Jewish girl named Alicia.
By the time I graduated, I’d still never been in anything approaching a serious relationship. She lived in New Hampshire, shared all of my nerdy hobbies, had a great sense of humor, and looked like a younger blonde version of geek icon Gillian Anderson from .
Previously he was a web producer and pop politics writer for the Washington Examiner.
23, 2009, on the shores of Lake Winnipesaukee in New Hampshire. *** Soon after my bar mitzvah, just as I was discovering my interest in the opposite sex, I began to be bombarded with information about intermarriage—about how one in every two Jewish people would marry a non-Jew and how more than half of the children of those unions would not be raised Jewish.