Dating is essentially figuring out if that person is the one. I repeat, 99% of the people you date will NOT work out. Being naturally pessimistic isn’t exactly helping in that category, either. I don’t have anyone to answer to, I can do my own thing, and not worry about what someone else is doing.My dad told me one time when I was 15 and had my first boyfriend, “If he’s going to cheat, he’s going to cheat.You don’t know what is right, you don’t know what is wrong.You just know that you like this person and you don’t want to lose them, but at the same time being in a committed relationship doesn’t seem right either. You pull out your hair, shaking your fists at the gods and beg them to give you all the magic secrets on how to make this shit work without any complications.“Tell the bitch sitting next to you that’s making pigeon noises in the phone, when I see her, I’m gonna beat her ass.” You can go do whatever you want, alone.If I want to go to the supermarket and read every label on every can of soup, I can do it. I could honestly tell you what I’m doing and you have no reason to freak out.Ever been at a party or a function where someone is talking to you, but at the same time scanning the room looking for someone else to talk to? I can also date multiple people and still make the right choice. Dating multiple people has significantly disabled bachelors and bachelorettes from focusing on the people sitting right in front of them.
You better make damn sure this is the right person.Every time I date a nice guy, especially if I like him, I feel so insecure and wonder, what if he’s dating someone else at the same time?Just last month, I met a cute guy and we went out and had so much fun together. Now it’s been a month and we’ve gone out four times.You fear that if you are open, then you will lose this person.More than likely you know that if you say, “Yeah, I met this really nice guy last night and he wants to take me out,” the response won’t be, “I am so happy for you! ” Granted, you like this person and it is only human nature to be somewhat offended.