I remember at first I felt terribly awkward receiving all these foods and presents, but at the same time I knew that it would be equally or even more disrespectful to turn it down.I took the food with a smile and thanked them for their generosity–even if Z did end up eating it all. Seems a bit random.” “She asked me if I cooked,” J begins. I feel really uncomfortable having her buy my food! I mean, what’s wrong with the ‘ol in-laws giving you some food? “She gave me tomatoes.” I sit back in my chair with a sigh of relief. And eight potatoes to go with it.” “Well, why did she do that? When J told me her boyfriend’s parents gave her boatloads of food to take home every visit, I was not only in lack of surprise–I thought it was somewhat normal.Women Can Not Start a Conversation Tradition asks Chinese women to be shy and introverted, especially towards man.Thus, initiating a conversation is something Chinese women won’t do. Avoid Detailed Conversation As previously described, women cannot be too open towards men.It is also due to their fear of exposing too much of herself that might led the men to think badly of them. This is why such private topics as income, living conditions, living expenses, previous romance, and some other detailed conversation is a big no to be talked during date.General topics like family and friends are more preferred, even praising each other appearances.6.
After visiting Z’s family in Ningbo over new year, her mother sent me home with enough fruit to sell in the market and a supply of walnuts and sunflower seeds that would last through the apocalypse. On regular visits they didn’t send me home with just food, but also socks, toothpaste, shampoo, and–get this– a brand new down feather coat. I’d be lucky if my dad brought me cough syrup from the kitchen.
Praising the Women’s Beauty on the First Meeting Politeness in the key in Chinese culture.
Thus, first impression played a big part in the continuity of the relationship.
The Oddities of Intercultural Dating In this interconnected world, it’s hard to imagine just how strong the cultural barriers still stand.
With our background in Chinese study and our long-standing experience in China, J and I thought we could brave anything when it came to dating Asian men–but we were so wrong. Unlike J, I do not discriminate and will date anyone (Asian or not), but for some reason or another (or maybe it’s a cruel destiny), most of my boyfriends end up being Asian.