You also need to give her the logical reasons for going, in order to take the burden of accountability off her shoulders.She can then explain this to her friends so that she is free to go and have fun.These are places to which you can venue change, in addition to your own place.To suggest the venue change be simple and direct, implying that you are in control and not easily distractible.Here are some short examples of how to initiate a venue change: If the girl has friends in the current venue or seems hard to move, you need to overhype the new venue.Build emotions into it and make it sound like the coolest thing you could ever do, no matter how ridiculous it is.It sets up a psychological frame of her being there with you.Every time she compromises her safety by going to a new place with you, and it turns out alright, you are building trust.
In the game plan, there are three ways of jumping from one location to the next.
You need to calibrate the move to the girl’s trust level.
Begin by moving her within the current venue, as that requires the least amount of trust.
More important than the actual steps in the trust building ladder is how you handle her resistance.
She needs to feel that you will not push her to do things she does not want to do – whether through kino escalation, jumps or other activities.